” A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for”. – John A. Shedd
Have you ever had a goal or a dream that scared you so much, it seemed impossible to reach?
Perhaps you didn’t feel good enough or smart enough to accomplish it.
Maybe you felt like you didn’t deserve it.
Or maybe, like so many of us, you were influenced by the weight of your to do list, obligations, and responsibilities, and felt as though it was unrealistic.
Today I want to challenge you to reevaluate all of the things you tell yourself that hold you back. Open yourself up to really hear that voice that tells you “no”, or “you shouldn’t”, or “you can’t” – and question it.
We all have inner thoughts that play like a reel in our heads.
Negative thinking patterns.
The thoughts that we tell ourselves when the day is over, the labels that we give ourselves that we would never say out loud.
Leaving your safe harbor is hard. The unknown can be scary.
But what if instead, you imagined that you succeeded? Picture that you’ve arrived at your destination. What would it look like? What would it feel like to be on the other side of your journey?
Let me ask you this. If a friend came to you sharing their goals and dreams with you, how would you respond to them? Would you tell them that they would never succeed? Would you say that they are ridiculous for even trying?
I am guessing that you would be encouraging and supportive, lending an ear and maybe even a helping hand. You might tell them that they are capable of achieving their goals and working towards their dreams.
I challenge you to give yourself the same encouragement and support that you would offer to a friend.
Tips for success when you are ready to ‘leave your harbor’:
• SET YOUR GOALS – How are you supposed to get to your destination if you never set one? It is crucial to know where you are going before you set sail. Take some time to create a vision board or a goal timeline.
• NAME YOUR NEGATIVE THINKING PATTERNS – What are you telling yourself that is holding you back? Work with a therapist or commit to engaging in your own personal reflection to explore your negative thinking patterns.
• CHALLENGE YOUR THOUGHTS – Is there any credibility to your negative thinking patterns? Perhaps your negative thinking pattern is that whenever you are faced with a task you immediately believe that you will fail. Challenge those thoughts. Use them to propel you forward instead of backward.
• ENCOURAGE YOURSELF – Personal affirmations, note cards taped to your mirror … whatever you have to do, do it! Try this, every time you envision your goal say to yourself, ‘I can do this, I am able’.