On more days than I care to admit, I wake up feeling a little less than enthusiastic.
My kids are little, which means that despite wanting or needing to do something for myself (or for my business or my blog), they come first.
And they know it.
If I even attempt to check my e-mail, get myself a snack, or go to the bathroom alone, I get bombarded with “what are you doing, mom?”, “play with me!”, or “I want some!”.
Understanding that this is just the season we’re in right now might not have me jumping out of bed in the morning, but at least I can accept it for what it is. A phase.
(and thank heavens I have dry shampoo and baby wipes to get me through.)
Below is a list I put together of some fool-proof ways I up my self-esteem and boost my energy – even when I’m stressed out, sleep-deprived, distracted, or short on time.
1. Be Present
When you discipline yourself to be truly “present” in every situation, you learn that when certain things cannot be altered, you can change your mindset in order to create a positive outcome.
This is everything.
Looking at every situation as an opportunity to learn and grow, you naturally become more aware of yourself, the people around you, and their feelings. Your senses intensify. You’re able to better alleviate uncomfortable situations by being attentive and understanding of how people feel, and how YOU feel.
Quiet meditation is one of the best ways to relieve stress and achieve calmness throughout the day. Since my days are typically unpredictable, chaotic, and noisy, I try to do this in the morning before the kids are out of bed, by going into my bathroom and closing the door. I sit quietly, distraction-free (I find sitting in the dark works best!), in complete silence for 5 full minutes.
Seriously, it feels so good. Try it! Close your eyes. Clear your mind. Be in the moment. Focus on your breathing. Just breathe.
3. Drink Lemon Water Upon Waking.
A little random, maybe, but this little trick does wonders for my mind & body!
Here’s what I do:
Before eating or drinking anything in the morning, I add the juice of 1/2 a fresh lemon (non-refrigerated) to 8 ounces of lukewarm or warm water. Then I wait 15-20 minutes before eating breakfast to give my body enough time to absorb all of the nutrients.
Studies show that consuming this beverage first thing in the morning boosts your immune system, aids in digestion, increases energy, detoxifies your organs, repairs your skin, and more. I personally have done this on and off for several years and notice a massive difference everytime I do it!
4. Be Assertive.
Who doesn’t love a woman who can leave a positive, lasting impression?
Even if you’re not very outgoing (which I am not most of the time), demonstrating confidence and boldness can be achieved in simple things like smiling often, making eye contact, asking questions, and offering a strong handshake.
5. Wear A Bra.
I KNOW everyone can relate to the serious mindset shift that happens when the bra gets put on.
I mean, you might as well put on some real pants while you’re committed.
6. Fresh Face
I rarely actually wash my face, except for in the shower (the real life of a mom)… but that’s what baby wipes are for, right?
Sweaty? Wipe. Dirty? Wipe? Make-up? Wipe.
And since I never have the time (or the supplies) to do a full face of make-up, I stick to some fresh-faced basics: mascara, tinted moisturizer, highlighter (on the inside corners of my eyes & upper cheekbones), and lip gloss (just kidding, I mostly use my daughter’s chapstick). If anything I look more awake and somewhat put together!
7. Be REAL.
You’ll never gain confidence in yourself if you aren’t actually being yourself. Let your freak flag fly and don’t be afraid of what other’s might think. Say the thing you want to say. Do the thing you want to do. Dance and sing in the middle of the aisle at the store if you feel like it. Drink the wine, order the cheeseburger, get the tattoo. FEEL shit. And never, ever be ashamed of it.
In the words of Dr. Seuss: “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”